A random song was playing on my way to work this morning. I am not normally on this station but the lyrics have been echoing in my head all day today.
Where there is desire
There is gonna be a flame
Where there is a flame
Someone’s bound to get burned
But just because it burns
Doesn’t mean you’re gonna die
You’ve gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Not the most profound – I know. This station plays mainstream hits – no other real prerequisite is required, I do not believe. Regardless, I think the song hit me today – since I was going through a cycle of my own. It is good to be humbled and to also re-evaluate your own trajectory or impact. To not, would be significantly worse, I feel. By no means am I stating doom and gloom – quite the opposite actually. I am stating that regardless which path you are on highs and lows will come. How you handle them is the true test of character.
Maxwell calls this “Failing Forward.” The very idea is appalling to many but the inventor of the world – the creationists with passion deal with this mantra routinely. Yet, most of us fear the word: Fail. It is quite possibly the Carrots and Sticks mindset – or perhaps Pavlov (or Skinner for that matter). Alfie Kohn has an excellent book on the topics too, called Punished by Rewards. Regardless which camp you come from – to fail is not a desired state but often necessary for real growth to come. Consider a farmer burning his or her fields – blazing flames destroy what is; leaving a black ash behind.
Take a moment today and reflect. Where are you? Where do you want to be? Now there is the gap… Go get it!
Alfie Kohn, Business